How to Safely Try Anal beads
If you are new to using anal beads, it is important to approach them with patience.
Discussing the Use of Anal beads with Your Partner
If you are interested in trying anal beads with your partner, it is important to have an open and honest discussion about your desires and interests. Approach the topic with a playful and open-minded attitude to create a comfortable environment for exploration. You can either choose beads together or, if one of you has experience, you can demonstrate or discuss them.
Begin at a slow pace.
According to Gigi Engle, a certified sex educator and author of All The F*cking Mistakes: a Guide to Sex, Love, and Life, it is advisable for beginners in using anal beads to opt for beads with "graduated sizes." This means that the beads start off small and gradually increase in size as you progress. Begin by gently inserting and removing the first small ball to familiarize yourself with the sensation. Engle suggests trying to do it slowly or quickly to see which feels better.
If you still feel a bit anxious, Vrangalova suggests that a good way to begin is by simply exploring anal sensation with a finger, whether it's your own or your partner's. As you become more comfortable, gradually introduce one or two balls into the activity.
You might want to try using them solo first.
Engle suggests that if you have never used anal beads before, it may be beneficial to try them out on your own first in order to become accustomed to the sensation. Once you become comfortable with using them, anal beads can be enjoyed during masturbation, receiving oral sex, or engaging in penetrative intercourse. You can also use them to train yourself, such as loosening your anus, in preparation for more advanced activities like pegging.
There is no need to insert every single ball.
Anal beads can vary in the number of balls they have, with some models featuring only three balls and others offering 10 or more balls. If you're new to using anal beads, you might be inclined to believe that purchasing a set with three balls is a good choice. However, it is generally recommended to opt for a set with ten balls, as it is likely to provide a better experience overall. There is no need to insert every single ball into your anus. You can insert as many as you desire. As you become more accustomed to the sensation over time, you may find yourself wanting to insert additional balls. Therefore, it is beneficial that you have chosen anal beads with a greater number of spheres.
It is recommended to use lubrication. A generous amount of lubricant.
When using any type of sex toy for anal play, it is important to apply a generous amount of lubricant. In contrast to the vagina, the anus does not possess natural lubrication. The instructions for each set of anal beads will indicate whether they are safe to use with silicone-based lubricant or not. It is highly recommended to use silicone-based lube with the toy, if possible. Silicone lubricant is a thicker option that has the advantage of drying out less quickly, making it particularly well-suited for anal play. If the instructions specify the use of water-based lube, generously apply it to both your anus and the beads as directed.
It is important to be mindful of the materials used in the manufacturing of your Anal beads.
Anal beads are available in various sex toy materials, with silicone, plastic, PVC, and other flexible materials being the most commonly used options. Just to reiterate, if you are using silicone anal beads, it is important to avoid using silicone-based lubricants as they can cause damage to the toy. It is recommended to use a water-based lubricant instead.
Silicone is often recommended as the best option for beginners due to its lighter and softer nature. However, metal and glass options are also quite popular. These materials are generally compatible with all types of lubricants. They have a firmer and heavier texture, and can be heated or cooled for enhanced sensation.
Consider gently removing the beads at the moment of orgasm.
Alicia Sinclair, a certified sex educator and the founder/CEO of b-Vibe, a company specializing in anal sex toys, recommends that either you or your partner remove the anal beads at the moment of orgasm. She explains that gently removing anal beads during climax can greatly enhance the intensity of the experience. This phenomenon is commonly known as "full body orgasms" due to the heightened sensation experienced during the peak of physical pleasure.
Make sure to engage your pelvic floor muscles as well.
According to Sinclair, the pelvic floor muscles possess remarkable strength, and during orgasm, our body naturally experiences spasms through these muscles. Consciously clenching and releasing your muscles, specifically the muscles in your anus, before orgasm, can provide a remarkable sensation and enhance the intensity of your orgasm. As you begin to experience arousal, consider gently contracting the muscles surrounding the anal balls. Maintain this contraction while removing the balls, as it can enhance your pleasure.
Effective communication is essential.
Many individuals experience arousal, both physically and psychologically, when someone else removes anal beads from them. When you personally "pop" each ball out, you anticipate it, but when someone else removes the beads, the element of surprise enhances the experience, making it even more enjoyable. One of the advantages of using anal beads with a partner is the ability to let them control the motion. Engle suggests that allowing your partner to have control over how they use the beads on you can create a seductive power dynamic.
To begin, Vrangalova emphasizes the significance of discussing individual desires and expectations for the experience. She suggests that you communicate with your partner about the desired number of balls to be inserted or pulled out, the desired speed of insertion or removal, and the desired frequency of these actions. When using larger beads, it is important to be cautious to avoid potential pain or anal tears. Inserting and removing them too quickly and forcefully can increase this risk. Therefore, it is recommended to proceed slowly and gently, unless instructed otherwise.
Douching before using anal beads is not necessary.
Using multiple anal beads can provide a deeper sensation, particularly when using more than two or three beads. If you are considering using deep insertions in your anus and rectum, you may be wondering about the necessity of cleaning beforehand. According to Vrangalova, it is not necessarily required.
"Some individuals opt to douche before engaging in anal play, although it is generally unnecessary," she explains. Typically, it is sufficient to wash the anal area before engaging in any activities and ensure that your bowels are relatively empty. This means having recently used the bathroom and not feeling the urge to go again. It is also a good idea to avoid consuming foods that may cause loose stool the day before.
Although many individuals continue to engage in douching or self-administered enemas, it is important to exercise caution due to studies indicating potential disruptions to the microbiome in the anus and an increased risk of contracting sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
Butt things might become messy.
Aside from enemas, engaging in anal play can be messy, and this goes beyond the presence of feces. When engaging with the anus, it is important to use an ample amount of lubrication. Additionally, to avoid the hassle of washing your sheets immediately afterwards, it is recommended to place a towel down for convenience. It is also convenient to have wet wipes readily available so that you can clean yourself after playing with the beads. Finally, feel free to take a shower during or after. Engaging in activities such as relaxing in warm water alone or having a conversation with your partner in a steam room can be a beneficial form of sexual aftercare.
Ensure that you use a condom when using the beads.
Even if you maintain good hygiene, it is still possible to unintentionally transfer bacteria from your anus to your partner's anus. Many of us have come across pornography in which a performer takes out anal beads and proceeds to place them directly into their own or someone else's mouth, vagina, or anus. Please refrain from doing that. If you intend to use anal beads in a different orifice or share them with another person, it is important to use a condom on the beads. Remember to change the condom before switching between different holes or partners.
Remember to regularly clean your Anal beads.
It is important to thoroughly clean your anal beads after each use, just like any other item that is inserted into you or your partner. According to Cole, cleaning it prevents the buildup of bacteria, which can lead to unpleasant infections. To clean them, simply wash them under warm water with soap. You have the option to allow them to dry naturally in the air. You do not require a specialized cleaning product or device.
It is important to note that anal beads, butt plugs, and prostate massagers are distinct items with unique purposes.
Remember that different toys serve different purposes. Butt plugs are specifically designed to be inserted and left in place during masturbation or sexual activity. Using sex toys during sexual activity often enhances the intensity and magnitude of ejaculations. According to Vrangalova, butt plugs can be utilized to gently stretch and prepare the anus for engaging in anal sex.
Prostate massagers, on the other hand, are specifically designed to target the prostate. That is why they are usually around three inches in length and have a curved end. While some prostate massagers are designed to be moved in and out, it is generally recommended to allow most of them to sit comfortably inside your body.
Anal beads provide pleasure by gradually filling the area and then delivering a euphoric release as each bead is removed. In that regard, anal beads provide a more active experience. There is a greater degree of movement involved.
Stop if anything feels uncomfortable.
Just like any other type of play, using anal beads may require practice, attention, and patience. Listen to your body, and if anything hurts, then stop. According to Cole, engaging in anal play can be highly enjoyable if you are able to relax. However, it is important to note that you should never feel obligated to endure any pain associated with it. It is important to exercise caution to avoid the development of anal fissures, which are painful skin tears occurring in and around the anus.
Whether you are using anal beads alone or with a partner, it is important to always ensure that the experience is enjoyable. If you discover that anal beads are not your preference, there's no need to worry or be concerned! There are numerous alternative methods to achieve sexual pleasure that do not involve inserting objects into the rectum.