Mastering the art of spanking may not be overly challenging, but it is important to keep a few key tips in mind before you begin.
Basic Technique. First, the top should gently place their hand on the bottom's buttocks, ensuring a comfortable fit between their hand and the shape of the bottom. The person on top can gently spank by keeping their hand slightly curved and their fingers close together. This method of spanking ensures that the entire hand comes into contact with the bottom's buttocks, allowing the top to have better control and finesse during the spanking. To enhance the intensity, the pitcher should take into account both the force of the swing and the positioning of the hand.
Warm-ups. It is important to begin with gentle spankings. A warm-up is a beneficial activity that helps increase blood circulation and promotes relaxation, allowing the individual to fully engage in the scene. It also provides the top with an opportunity to gradually enter the scene and assess the bottom's responses. There is no specific time limit for a warm-up. The answer to your question depends on the level of intensity you intend to escalate to in the future. If you only intend to administer a level 4 spanking, you don't have to dedicate as much time to the warm-up compared to when you aim for a level 10 spanking. We strongly recommend against skipping a warm-up, regardless of the intensity level.
Even if spanking is intended as a form of punishment and a gentle warm-up may seem too lenient, the person in the dominant role can choose to apply more force immediately, even over clothing such as jeans, in order to create the perception of a more intense disciplinary action. By the time the bottom removes their clothes, they have already been sufficiently warmed up, allowing the top to continue at the same intensity level or even increase it.
Areas of focus. When administering a spanking, it is advisable to aim for the middle to lower part of the buttocks as these areas tend to have more padding. To prevent injury, it is important to avoid hitting the tailbone or the upper part of the buttocks. Many types of bottoms can be worn on the upper thighs, while the lower thighs are more sensitive and may not be as suitable for certain styles.
Intensity. Light spankings can be incorporated into the scene beyond just the warm-up phase, adding variety and excitement. Using the entire hand, as mentioned in the Basic Technique above, can lead to a milder spanking due to the increased surface area being utilized. To increase the intensity of the spanking, the person administering it can flatten their hand. The curvature of the buttocks causes less surface area to come into contact with the skin when the hand is flattened, resulting in a more intense spanking sensation. The person on top can also apply greater force during each spanking. It is important to remember that tops should never strike with their full strength. The objective in BDSM is not to cause any actual harm to either the bottom or the top. Another method to increase the intensity of spankings is to administer them when the recipient's buttocks are damp or wet. This significantly amplifies the level of sting.
Rhythm. After completing the warm-up, it is crucial to maintain an engaging atmosphere during the main event. To enhance the experience, it's important to avoid mechanically spanking in a repetitive pattern. Instead, try varying the intensity and location of your spankings. Maintain an element of surprise by occasionally pausing to gently caress or rub their buttocks before resuming the spanking.
Marks. Predicting whether a spanking will leave marks can be quite challenging, as individuals vary in their tendency to mark, both in general and from one instance to another. Seasoned spankees are less likely to mark compared to newbies. Certain medications, such as ibuprofen, aspirin, and other blood thinners, can potentially increase the chances of experiencing bruising. Alcohol follows the same principle. The use of certain implements, such as a cane, is highly likely to cause bruising. However, if someone is spanked through clothing and a lengthy warm-up is provided beforehand, it can help minimize the chances of bruising.
Noisy/quiet spankings. To increase the volume of spankings, the person administering the spanking can curve their hand to maximize the surface area of contact and deliver the strike with greater speed. If you want to reduce the noise of spankings, there are limited options available, unless you are applying very gentle force. That is why we suggest punching as an option for a quieter impact that does not require any tools or implements.
Implements. There are individuals who have a preference for hand spankings exclusively, while others enjoy incorporating various implements into their spanking experiences. The most commonly used implements for administering spankings are paddles, belts, hairbrushes, and wooden spoons. The materials and shapes of these objects determine their tactile qualities. The level of pain increases as the materials become harder and the surface area decreases. In order to provide the top with some relief during lengthy spanking scenes, it may be necessary to utilize implements. Prior to using any implement on a bottom, it is advisable for a top to test it on themselves to gauge its sensation.